Incredible Guy vs. I Can Fix It Guy

As harsh as it may sound, an adult man who needs to be fixed is not someone to be around. Saying, "I can change him," is ignorance, not optimism. People are capable of transforming and improving themselves, but carrying the burden of that mess is something you should avoid. It's impossible to fix a grown adult on your own, and you don't have to. Here’s why:

1. It is not your job to fix a man. It is not your place to tell another person how or why they should change for you. If you and your partner aren't a good fit from the start, you won't be a good fit six months or ten years later. An adult who needs to be fixed is not your concern and is unsuitable for a relationship.
2. Don't make your life any more stressful. Everyday life is already stressful. With work, school, bills, and others, you already have a lot on your plate. Fixing a guy should be the last thing on your mind because it is almost certain to fail. Clinging to a relationship that was doomed from the start isn't worth the effort.
3. It is acceptable to be incompatible with someone. People are complicated beings. Every one of them has their own set of likes, dislikes, goals, and bad habits. Even if you and the other person are decent, honest people, your qualities can easily clash. Incompatibility isn't always a sign that your boyfriend needs to be fixed; it could simply mean that the two of you should part ways. Not every guy you date will be a good match, and that's fine.
4. Your love is not universal. If you have strong feelings for a man, that doesn't mean he will magically become unbroken and open up to your attempts to fix him. Love is an intense emotion, but it will not solve all of your problems simply because it is love. If a grown man has irreversible characteristics, your feelings are unlikely to change them.
5. The right one will not be complicated. He will not demand most of time and he will also act naturally around you. Unlike the “I can fix it” guy, the incredible one will always make way for you to feel comfortable and safe. He will not be another stressor nor a nuisance but a support system in one person. We naturally seek his support and proceed to tell him everything that has occurred, expecting him to be there for us as we have been for him.